Well, this IS a poser. . . . If you yourself see these two things as conflicting (as I would myself), then how are your children supposed to see them? It’s a bit like trying to keep your kids off drugs while using them yourself. Which message are they supposed to accept?

I don’t say that what you propose to do is impossible, but I’m afraid I have no suggestions for you. I’m stumped. Sorry.

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updated: 02 Nov 2003

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