It wasn’t YOU I was describing as a “poser,” but rather your QUESTION (“poser” being defined in my dictionary as “a baffling question or problem”). I sense a certain anger in your question, as if I might be deliberately being unhelpful. I assure you I’m not.
I’m NOT aware of others who are in relationships like yours and have been successful. Unlike gurus and presidential candidates, I freely admit I don’t have answers to any and all questions. If I had an answer for your question, I’d be more than happy to share it with you.
You face a knotty problem, and I don’t know how to untie the knot. If you discover how to untie it, I sincerely hope you’ll share your experience with me and other visitors to the website.
updated: 02 Nov 2003
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